28. Mirror Mirror (from The Oracle of the Mystic)

We attract, yearn for, pursue, tolerate, dread and run from different interpersonal dynamics for different reasons. Inner healing, karmic cycles and imbalances, soul lessons, ancestral wounds and trauma, as well as soul contracts all come into play. We are all here to assist each other in moving through all of these things during this lifetime, and the only way we can move these energies is through relationships. We serve as mirrors for each other to see what we need to see inside ourselves, and we are constantly transforming, balancing and shifting our individual energies by experiencing all that we do together in relationships. So, believe it or not, that terrible, ugly breakup might have been the greatest gift of your life, setting you free from lifetimes of accepting less than you’re worth. And that mother-in-law who knows exactly how to press your buttons and undermine? She could be teaching you a lesson your soul needs in empowerment and confidence. You have an amazingly accurate and infallible energy reading tool at your disposal at all times to help you know what kind of energy is flowing through your relationship: your own body. Your body, if you pay close attention, will always let you know when something needs to be addressed and shifted or released. Do an inner scan and notice what your body does when you are in another person’s presence. Do your shoulders get tight? Do you get a headache? Feel exhausted? Get an upset stomach? Feel dizzy or drained? Your body is letting you know that something about the energy cocktail of you and this other person sets off an alarm within. Listen to this – don’t ignore it. Show inner curiosity about what your body is doing, because the body is never wrong. What could it be telling you? Your thought patterns are also going to send you energy messages. If you often find yourself feeling anxious or having worried thoughts about the dynamic, then there’s likely a key soul lesson or inner wound healing opportunity waiting to be discovered. Any recurring negative thought patterns that arise around the other person, including negative self-talk, vague heaviness, or aggressive and angry thoughts about them are showing you there’s something underneath the activity of the protective ego mind that needs safe exploration. “Safe” is a crucial word when it comes to understanding energy. Your most important job as an aware, conscious human in a relationship is to become a living embodiment of safe, loving, grounded energy – both for yourself and for other people. The most powerful way to enter into any interaction with another person is to ask within, “What is this showing me about myself?” Since each of us has a unique perception of ourselves and our reality that is all our own, we each serve as both a projection and a reflection of those perceptions and the energies created by them. When you are living in a way that is energetically aware and conscious, you will find relationships with others are a never-ending and beautiful kaleidoscope that will keep you fascinated (and, yes, occasionally frustrated) – and learning – for a lifetime.

If you’ve pulled this card, you are being guided to:

• Understand that your interpersonal dynamics are influenced by various factors such as inner healing, karmic cycles, soul lessons, ancestral wounds, trauma, and soul contracts

• Allow your relationships to serve as mirrors for self-reflection and personal growth

• Consider how challenges in relationships can be opportunities for healing and empowerment

• Pay attention to physical sensations and thought patterns as indicators of the energy dynamics of a relationship

• Ask yourself, “Is the relationship I’m wondering about safe for me mentally, physically, emotionally and energetically?”