Breaking Your Own Heart

Truth: Love will break your heart. Not only through the goodbyes but through the hellos. It will break your heart open daily. It will wake you up and shake you up. It will call you back into presence through pain again and again. It will require you to be fully HERE with it. No settling, no halfway. The stronger and more rigid the barricades to your heart, the more forcefully love will break them down. It requires this because that is the only way for you have the endless and abundant rewards, gifts and miracles of joy and connection love wants for you. It will never stop trying to deliver to you all the gifts of love that have your name on them.

Also truth: We break our own hearts needlessly in order to avoid allowing love to do it for us. We do this from a deep-seated desire for control. We do it from ancient fear. We don’t trust our own hearts to be able to handle the temporary pain of breaking. So we choose to make ourselves suffer constantly. We make our own hearts starve and scrape for crumbs and scraps rather than allowing them to feast on love on its wild, uncontrollable terms.

And one more truth: There’s another way. A way with no suffering and only temporary, rhythmic, passing, beautiful waves of natural pain. Practice leaving your heart broken. Leave it broken open. Don’t repair the latch. Let its doors swing wide, trusting that all that is not loving will drift out of it just as quickly as it drifted in. Trusting that true love will make its home there and never leave. You are safe. Stop checking the locks on your heart. The break-ins have already happened. Leave your heart broken. You have all that you need. Love is protecting you now. Let your heart be filled to overflowing. Surrender to love. Love will never stop.  Let it own you. Let it rule you. Let it love you.